Would you consider writing another article on game for good looking guys? I was struggling trying to figure out what was wrong and your articles were incredibly helpful. I fit in to the type 2 (alpha male with male model type looks) you described and noticed that as I grew in to my looks and got in better shape I would rarely catch girls looking at me unless I’m putting out a relaxed, outgoing vibe and even then it’s nervous deer in headlights type looks. It’s actually quite frustrating, any further advice or articles on this would be awesome. I found it way easier to hook up with girls when I was an ~8/10 in looks and would get opened constantly, now it’s very rare girls come up to me and when I come up to them they nervously stumble their words and I feel like I’m just walking them through a conversation a lot of the time.
Well Ian, lucky for you I’ve been planning on writing a book on just this subject, game for good-looking guys (don’t worry that most likely will not be the title) – now when this book actually gets done and released, fuck if I know, so then y’all will just have to keep coming back here for updates, or follow my twitter account. Seems I’ve hit a bit of a niche within the manosphere and hopefully its big enough to warrant me charging a few bucks for it for you all to soak up and worship me, I mean read it and like it.
But enough blatant self-promotion/self-ass-kicking diatribes, let’s get to the heart of the matter with your concerns. With anything in-game, as I contest, the first thing any man needs to do is to fit a style and look and come to terms on the inside with the new outside you. Inner game matching your outer look. The next thing isn’t to just go approach 1000′s of women, no it’s to go out be social and calibrate yourself with your look, your looks, and your target’s perception of you, in this case hot babes that barely look at you now, and when they do they act like “deer in headlights”. Once you start getting a reaction, that’s when you can start running game, when you can start experimenting. See this is the core reason why, although basic game tenets run true for everyone, the style and method you use to run game is specifically geared towards you. So I can tell you specifics, but it may not work for you, as I don’t know you, see you or can tell what vibe you’re giving off to the ladies.
Now it’s very easy to get all up in your head about these reactions, but if you can stop and think about it and let it ruminate around your brain like a fresh sip of wine swirling around your palate, you’ll be able to tell that these reactions are providing you with much-needed and valuable information, not only in how to calibrate your look and vibe, but to successfully use these reactions to your advantage.
Now I’m not going to tell you a way that you can magically start having chicks start staring you down in public, we would need to get much more specific details about your situation. Besides I wouldn’t make that promise. Anyone who does is a bullshitter. What I can tell you is that something is off with your vibe and look. It most likely is that you’re too good-looking for them to feel safe in checking you out, or to not feel insecure around you when you talk. It could be something else, but let’s stick with this, as this is the primary good-looking guy problem. Ian have you ever been out with friends, girls or guys, and have them tell you that some hot babe was totally checking you out, one that you saw when you came into the room and she totally ignored you when you looked at her, or when you checked her out she looked like she couldn’t be less interested in your presence? I’ll guess, yes.
See I’ve had these too, it’s frustrating because sometimes you think your friends are messing with you, especially your guy friends, because well we do this to each other – but there’s a very good reason for this. Girls are very insecure when they see something of high value, at least on average they are. See they get to walk around the object of most mens desires all day every day, then they see you, and they’re put into a position they’re not used to at all. They suddenly feel not worthy, nervous, insecure, and not pretty or hot enough. Besides you probably have a girl-friend, or 20, she’ll just check you out longingly like a creepy dude in a trench coat checking out a hot young chick. Either that or they think your gay.
One thing never mentioned, is that if you look too good as a guy, you’re most often passed off as gay. The best looking guys to many girls always turn out to be gay, so they assume any guy 8 or above is too hot to be straight. So they’ll check you out or notice you but think, meh he’s got to be gay.
Now how do you deal with this? Well you use this information to your advantage. This is something I’m usually terrible at on an average day, and why I’m not a great approach-er, (yeah I can admit it so what) – being a good-looking guy and approaching a girl who’s gonna shrink and cower and act like she’s gonna faint when you start talking to her is not an easy thing to get through. Like you mentioned, you’re completely dominating the conversation trying to get her to contribute anything, just so you’re not the only one putting in any effort. I have low energy most times, when I’m out, and got myself in high energy mode and really want to do approaches like this, I can just fine, but really as I’ve stated before I’m lazy, and probably not quite good-looking enough to be as lazy as I am. But I probably am.
You have two options that you can go here. And it’s a decision you shouldn’t take lightly, because both ways will turn off opposite girls. You want to run either direct game, like when she’s shy and nervous you can then call a cab and ask her what kind of drink she likes and tell the cabby to go to your place. Direct game will get you laid quick and easy with some girls, of course you could be talking to one that this scares the shit out of and leaves. That’s option two, learn to talk to girls where you can make her feel at ease, when you’re good-looking you can pull a few cheesy would-be beta lines out on her, and the more cheesy the better because you want to bring yourself down a level for her to make her feel comfortable to talk to you and tease you. Most girls only know how to flirt through teasing, she can’t tease you if she thinks you’re the god of thunder. Now this won’t really go over to well with the chick that lapped your cum off your cock after using direct game, she’ll think there’s something wrong with you, and get beta or insecure vibes from you. But even the girls that don’t, it shouldn’t take you long to bang them, most of those can be same night lays too, you just have to put in all that annoying talking and going out to a bar or restaurant crap that kind of bug me.
But it’s up to you which path you choose. There is no middle of the road.