I talked about this on my latest podcast a little bit, a reader/listener tweeted in asking me what I prefer, and in doing so I explained my preference for direct game, because I’m just a lazy impatient mother fucker that no longer needs to waste time and energy on the slow build. Direct game is great, when it works, but it rarely really does as an opener, at least in most places you will be trying to pick up, or approach cold.
Using direct game as an opener is foolish in almost every circumstance, unless you’re a seasoned veteran with tight apparel, social value, and proper machismo emanating from you, and even then, you’ll have a much lower success rate if success means being not being blown out immediately. Direct game and in this article I mean, approaching and building that initial interaction, is really only effective (in my experience) at clubs, or loud venues, like parties that are too loud to have a conversation. When ever it’s too loud to talk, direct game is your best friend, when it’s quiet, it’s a risky move, and chances are good you’ll get blown out. Sure when it works, you will most likely get laid, but you’ll be more endangered of having her react as if she’s being harassed. As our culture gets more feminized, this will only increase more and more.
Indirect game, including non-sequiturs and small talk, is always the best way to start gaming a chick. It is more time-consuming, but its most effective because it’s the best way to get her to start investing into you, and the interaction, and once you have that, you’re on your way to continuing your seduction. With direct game, you’re basically doing a scatter bomb, hitting everything and waiting for the horny slut who’s turned on by direct action from a man, and not timid or threatened by direct and overt intentions towards her. One could even argue this creates more work, because you’ll simply be carpet bombing more chicks, or waiting around to spot one with your experienced keen observant eye.
Also if you’re just starting out getting with babes, then going indirect for the first portion of your interaction will help you identify what works and what doesn’t, whereas indirect game you’re relying too much on what that particular girl wants at the moment. Direct is more of a crap-shoot, indirect is more strategy based.
It is important to remember that women think first, second and third through their emotions. They only use logic and reason after these bursts of emotions, it’s even worse should she be ovulating or period. And when you approach her, if she’s seen you, she’s already sized you up and has a strong visceral feeling towards how you are going to behave; if she didn’t see you approach, she’ll have a much more intense first impression feeling towards you. If you come out with direct game, in the wrong setting, you’ll most likely enforce her anti-pick up defenses and retreat in fear or repulsion, except for those very few horny little minxes. It works much better to either alleviate those feelings of dread, insecurity, harassment, etc with indirect game and non-sequiturs and start producing new feelings in her.
Because girls are emotional, and run by emotions, is the whole reason why game works, and exists. It’s also why it doesn’t work on men. And it’s also why, I believe the most important thing to learn as far as game goes, is women’s true nature and behaviors. That is what game is, using their nature, to fit in with your nature, and create lotsa fun sexy time.