A reader writes:
Just want to say first and foremost that I’m an avid reader of your blog, and excited that I finally have an opportunity to write you. As a man who clearly has his shit together in terms of dealing with women I’m hoping that I could solicit some much needed advice from you.
I have been seeing this girl for about a month and a half now. Physically, she is easily a 5/5 (and is well aware of it). She comes from an unbelievably wealthy family, and as such has a penchant for acting like a spoiled brat. Generally, things are great between us but every other day or so she will launch into completely random spats of emotionally driven and vitriolic rants directed at my perceived short comings in life. Generally, it is my policy to never engage with these illogical and irate spats of bitchiness. I won’t fight with her, I’ll usually just grab my car keys and tell her that it’s time for her to go home. As I’m sure you would expect, she starts crying, apologizes, and initiates makeup sex. I guess I’m a little bit of a softie when it comes to hot crying girls, and I take her back hoping that this will be the last time. Obviously it never is.
This girl is normally a lot of fun to be around, but the aforementioned fighting is becoming increasingly more hostile and consistent. The disrespect has me wondering if it’s time to through in the towel on this girl and move on to the next one. What’s your opinion?
First off, I’ve never heard of rating a girl out of 5′s? What strange land are you from? All kidding aside though you hit a category of chick that I haven’t dealt to much with, and may have to go into my second edition of my new upcoming guide to girls book. She is of course in the category of the spoiled rich brat. Now it’s true most girls these days act spoiled and entitled, but to come across a genuine wealthy spoiled rich brat, is fairly rare.
It sounds like you’ve handled her shit tests quite well, reader, and yet you’ve picked up on a bigger issue here, which has rightfully tickled your spidey senses. That is, the shit tests aren’t going away, and only becoming more hostile and consistent. What is happening here is that the first phase of you tossing the little brat out every time she has acted up has ceased to be enough, mainly due to you often letting her back in. And don’t fret mon ami, we all have our strength tested when the water starts leaking from a beautiful creature, especially one we’re boning.
Now since she’s now put you on a bigger more drawn out shit test you’ll need to recognize that she’s doing this because she isn’t sure if you have the balls to really control her, to really reign this and other shitty behavior in…. over the course of time her instincts are telling her that you’re just a door mat disguised in wolf’s clothing. You say you don’t play the game, and it’s good, but she has out foxed you, as only the hottest foxes can do, under your nose and employed you in another game that will test your medal in masculinity. She is also, like other spoiled brats, and girls in general, but especially the spoiled ones, craving drama. Seems like you two have a drama free existence, most of the time, and although a dream for men, is chaos to chicks. They need a little drama in their lives, and if they don’t get it, then they most certainly will create it. And of course, this is what she is doing here. Creating drama for her to get excited and feel a sense of dread that makes her tingle.
And this of course brings us to how you deal with this eccentric bird. Instill dread in the relationship. There’s no need to cut it off, unless you are unwilling or not motivated to heed my advice – but if you are, you’ll need to make her fear for your attention and love, you’ll need to create some tension in it, by accidentally texting a sext message meant for someone else, or staying out late at bars or a “friends” house with out responding to any of her queries, freezing her out, make plans with her and then break them at the last-minute. Give her the drama she craves, and damn it, fight with her sometimes. An alpha male won’t always be calm and aloof, he shows some passion and is quick to be angered when a line has been crossed. Don’t be afraid to have an argument in passion with her, as long as it’s once and awhile and you’ve put your foot down.
If you are willing to do those things, you can keep her around and you’ll notice these incidents decline, and her passion increase. However, getting a new girl or a few other girls into your rotation might be a more calm approach and have the effects of instilling dread and terror into said spoiled brat and drive her nuts. Usually this is the best answer anyways.