Why There Is A Slut Double Standard

File this one under too obvious for an article to be written about it, but hey, it seems these days that common sense and the obvious are elusive concepts to the bulk of people out there as they try to come to terms with why things are the way they are. The biggest feminist cry to come out over the past decade or so is this why should we shame sluts, and their misguided demand that if a woman is a slut for sleeping with a lot of men, than a man should be equally shamed. They despise this double standard because it undermines their argument that the sexes are the same. This is an ideal that when put under any scrutiny it falls apart, and thus unravels the whole gender equality claims – that there are differences and anyone that’s actually been active in the sexual market place can see, if they take off the blinders that political correctness and feminism has put on.

The reason sluts should be shamed, as opposed to players being as they traditionally have been, praised, is because of the ease and difficulties in getting laid by the desired class of the opposing sex. As a man we know how easy it is for chicks to get laid, all they  have to do is say yes, and if they offered it up, they’d have a line up down the street of men wanting to give it to them, reverse it and you would find a dry desert even for the most desirable of men. We’ve discussed this before and the same argument always comes back from women is that it’s not that easy to get laid as I and others claim. This seems like a major disconnect. Let’s took a look at why, here are two graphs I have come up with to illustrate this disconnect – these are my own numbers, not from a study, but it’s here to show why there’s a big disconnect in this problem. So these graphs represent the status quo average guy and girl respectfully.

graph1

Here is the pool of the women in the average man’s world that is in the sexual market place, the top 10% being 9’s and 10’s that any average man wants more than anything, and is his overall goal to bang, the 70% range from 5’s to 8’s that he will gladly bang, to I need to bang to get out of a funk. The rest is the few women that he wouldn’t even touch in a 10 year sex drought.

Now compare this to an average woman’s world:

graph2You can see the difference in one major group. More men are automatically out of their pool to have sex with, where as most men would gladly sleep with them, making the sexual market place skewed towards the female, until of course we get to the top men, where they are so limited and so few, that the top men have the power of the sexual marketplace skewed to them. The doable group here is men that women will consider sleeping with or dating, but not their first choice. There is less of a range with women, there is no, I’ll do some creepy guy to get out of a rut, etc. that women go through. There is a clear distinction on standards and who is sexually attractive and who isn’t.

This graph also demonstrates why girls feel entitled to high quality men, because they have such a small pool that they will feel any attraction to, then they of course naturally will only want to date or bang someone who falls into that narrow category. Having sex just to get it out of our system is a guy thing, not a girl thing. With rare exceptions.

The most important thing this graph shows though, is that the two pools do not intersect much. The pool of men wanting to sleep with the bulk of women that will never sleep with them, leaving a huge chunk of men with out the ability to even bang 5’s and 6’s and left with the unbangable. So for a man to be able to sleep with a lot of women, in such a narrow field of acceptable bangability is pretty difficult, judging by the numbers, where a girl, with such a large pool who wants to sleep with her, isn’t really accomplishing much except handing out big macs for free. The disconnect occurs because women don’t see the first graph, they think it’s the same for men, what they don’t get is that we have a much larger pool of women we want to actively bang then they have of men whom they want. So while it may be true that it’s hard for a girl to bang a top 1% of men, it’s not hard for her to have sex. The rationalization is that they don’t look at a majority of men as options and thus the disconnect on why they might be bad if they’re sluts. Because there is such a small pool of men for them, the competition is higher for an attractive average girl, and thus it may seem more difficult to have sex, because they only want it with certain men with certain features. Whereas men will have a much wider range of things that will make banging a girl however the majority of these women will never sleep with the average man. He simply isn’t qualified to sleep with them.

This is why the double standard exists. A man who can be successful with women, has done something significant as equal to a girl being successful with the top 1% of men she desires. Men face much larger competition with a smaller pool of willing women to choose from, getting sex from multiple girls from that pool is something to be proud of, a girl getting action from a large pool of willing men is not something to be proud of.

Slut shaming exists for girls because of supply and demand.

 

30 thoughts on “Why There Is A Slut Double Standard

  1. Also because male sexual jealousy is more powerful than female sexual jealousy. Women can’t be cuckolded, and, while tomcatting may result in fewer resources funneled to her children, it is a sign of a high-SMV partner which helps sate hypergamous impulse, c.f. the “sexy sons” hypothesis.

    Most men, however, value female chastity because it reduces the risk of male interlopers and cuckoldry. It’s not something that can be willed away, any more than a woman can will away her revulsion for supplicating men.

  2. Good post.

    This double standard will always exist until the day i see a women’s newspaper, magazine or website that has ads like this in it except genders reversed.

    http://wp.me/a2wgm0-u0

    Any belief by women that men have as easy a time getting laid as they do is simply a matter of projection. A projection of the 1% of men’s abilities on the 99% of men that are for all intents walking apparitions.

  3. [...] File this one under too obvious for an article to be written about it, but hey, it seems these days that common sense and the obvious are elusive concepts to the bulk of people out there as they try to come to terms with why things are the way they are. The biggest feminist cry to come out over the past decade or so is this why should we shame sluts, and their misguided demand that if a woman is a slut for sleeping with a lot of men, than a man should be equally shamed. They despise this double standard because it undermines their argument that the sexes are the same. This is an ideal that when put under any scrutiny it falls apart, and thus unravels the whole gender equality claims – that there are differences and anyone that’s actually been active in the sexual market place can see, if they take off the blinders that political correctness and feminism has put on. The reason sluts should be shamed, as opposed to players being as they traditionally have been, praised, is because of the ease and difficulties in getting laid by the desired class of the opposing sex. As Source: Paradigm Shift   [...]

  4. The key that opens many locks is a master key, the lock that is opened by many keys is a shitty lock.

    Take Gene Simmons. How many has he bedded? 3000? 5000?
    This guy has been one of the most famous men of his generation, and he has been able to bed that number. Out of 3 billion men alive today, how many can achieve that number if they want to?

    Now take any of the average or good looking girls that you encounter in any time in any location. The only things she needs to have to bang 3000 men are the willingness and time.

    Gene Simmons, apex stud, vs average Jane.

    Then we have the driver that drives many cars, and the car that is driven by many drivers…

    Etc etc.. analogies never end

  5. Just because a girl gets sex easy doesn’t mean she should be shamed. The only people who shame sluts are women and the men who don’t get to fuck them. Same how people whine and bitch about anyone who got anything easy in life – deep down inside it’s just envy and resentment. Men like myself who actively enjoy the company of raging sluts are not complaining about anything. Non-slutty women also cannot possibly know what it feels like to have the high libido of a true slut, who masturbates two or three times a day and fantasizes about the nastiest shit to get off.

    She wants casual sex instead of commitment and flings with men that turn her on instead of steady relationships with providers. Sluts are akin to players in a lot of ways, but they can be manipulated and made to fall in love much easier, because they are still girls. does anyone here know how satisfying it feels to turn a fit slut who has swallowed up the souls of men and spit them out into an adoring submissive woman begging for your affection and commitment? While it might have been the easiest thing in the world to get the slut in bed, crawling inside of her head is where I find the most pleasure. If you do it successfully, she will be loyal to you.

    I’m talking about hot sluts, though. They get everything in life. The fittest girls can be as slutty as they want and get away with it. Trust me, she will have a history of using men like disposable lighters, exchanging them for the next best thing that comes around. When you turn the tables on her and make her chase you it feels so fucking good. Cuz you know there are a bunch of guys still trying to get over the fact that they were dumped by their super hot girlfriend and that she jumped on someone else’s cock in a matter of hours or minutes. They can also settle down into long term relationships and play innocent girl, and even if the men they are dating can sense what a slut she is, they will overlook it because she’s hot as fuck and can suck a mean dick into the back of her throat. Yay sluts.

    I love the look on the face of the jealous ex, eyeing me with hate and bewilderment, wondering what he could have possibly done to fuck up (maybe it was the Valentine’s day gift, you cheesy fuck). I don’t care that technically I’m picking up his sloppy 45ths or 46ths or 100ths. She still has value because she’s young. When I’m through with her she will possibly have even more value, since she will have learned to be a submissive little slut angel, cooking and cleaning for me on demand.

    Also, yay (quality) plastic surgery, steroids, and pure luck in life. Anyone who hacks the system has my blessing. We don’t live in a merit-based world anymore. If you want something you have to take it by any means, and whether that means cheating the system or working your ass off for it so other people can praise you for your accomplishments means little. Why should a slut care what you think anyways? She’s too busy being fucked to give a shit.

    according to a famous philosopher, men desire women because they are the most dangerous plaything. Playing with my girl is playing with fire. This is a girl who confided to me how she roofied her ex to go fuck an old fuckbuddy in the middle of the night, and then came home and showered and curled up in bed next to him. Love it.

  6. yesss….beauty and youth trumps everryyything. It appears from comments such as RT and the numerous ones I have come across, An average to below average woman who has many sex partners is a slut – even though it is harder for her to score – yet a hot woman who has many sex partners is “forgiven” because she is hot and everything a hot woman does is excused. I think what men resent the most is being “forced” by feminisim to accord the same treatment to ugly girls as they would to hot ones – against our nature ! against our nature ! I love men by the way – happy with hubby and sons

  7. a hot girl would be more looked down upon, unless she has access to the bulk of the top men. If she’s dipping into average girl pool, many girls will hate her, and many top men will think she’s trash (for a relationship).

  8. Bottom line. . . Women have returned to the hypergamous herd where they’ll share a few men at the top, rather than be loyal to an average Joe. De-evolution in progress? 10% of the guys are fucking 90% of the girls. . . .

  9. Seems from some of the comments some guys think that girls being slutty is normal which me personally dont think it is,maybe cause im more old fashioned,but the sluts and whores were always the sluts and whores,not some random girl that becomes a slut one day,im also noticing this all over the place,when somebody says that people are jealous that they are not hot enough as the girl that is getting lots of guys ( or girls ) and thats why they are being called a slut that is just not in my way of thinking….whore was always a whore and a slut,unless your counting all the feminism liberalism brainwashing that is turning all girls into sluts lol….

  10. “I will not punish your daughters when they play the harlot
    Or your brides when they commit adultery
    For the men themselves go apart with harlots
    And offer sacrifices with temple prostitutes
    So the people without understanding are ruined.” Hosea 4:14

    Leading? Following? Or both?

  11. @Icarus- Dude, what’s up with your site?

    I tried commenting on your last post, but it won’t go though. It kept saying some error message thing.

    @Donlak- I’m totally not getting any updates to your blog posts. It says that I’m subscribed but I just happened to go to your blog by chance and notice you’ve been posting (but I haven’t gotten any updates in months).

    I’ll just resubscribe and see what happens.

  12. The discussion is practically over before I can think of the proper analogy… dang.

    They proper question is not: “What do we say about people that have a lot of sex?”

    I think the real question here, for both genders, is: “What do we say about people that have a lot of *easy* sex?”

    What’s the easy way for men to have sex?

    Right: to pay for it.
    (That this is – for most – the cheapest way to get sex is another topic of interest)

    And… is there any shaming of men who visit prostitutes?

    Oh, you bet your ass there is.

    I’d like you to do an experiment, next time some lass is complaining about slut shaming: don’t react, but some minutes later tell a story about a friend of yours who visits prostitutes and ask her opinion.
    I would bet there’ll be shaming language galore.

  13. The supply/demand argument is very persuasive. And really, it just proves that the double standard is nothing more than a social convention based on current conditions.

  14. There should be equal stud shaming. Yes it easier for a women to get laid, but I myself as an herbivore man am even pickier than the average women. For a women to get laid with me she should work much harder than the average men to get laid with the average women. Society is crap because most men are too easy. Emotions are more important than sex!

    Nuf said!

  15. nice summation. I think sensible women know all about the underlying biological logic of the slut double standard, but many of them go along with the feminist agenda because feminists are the most high-profile voices for women in the media. it’s easier simply to agree with the dominant feminist voices publicly – even if it’s only lip service and they privately believe something else – and it’s a good way for them to provoke the 75 per cent or so of men they don’t consider important.

  16. Slut-shaming exists because it’s a turn on to degrade women and make them feel like worthless sexual objects that exist only for male pleasure. It really isn’t any more complex than that.

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