Marriage as an institution of society has lost its meaning, it no longer has its legal priorities straight (outside of tax benefits) – whereas women were once protected under the law in the case of divorce because their gender was significantly damaged if they were divorced (read: looked down upon, not in the job market so unable to pay her bills, sexual market place value equal to that of a spinster or worse) so many of the laws that have grown from this dichotomy were probably once valid – this was due because socially we were built on the moral’s of marriage, family and these traditions that grounded people into roles that were both productive and fulfilling for multiple generations – there was a legacy that derived from marriage, a lineage and traditions. All of that has gone away, save for a few small percentile.
I heard over the weekend someone say: “The whole changing the last name is so antiquated, who cares about whether your children have your name or carry on your name anymore.” This is of course where we are now as a society. This was said with no bitterness, not from a feminist, and not from anyone who’s really thought about it much (probably). But just said as nonchalant as they would about some tv show they heard about that seems irrelevant to them. But that’s a major tell in our society, where the average person in their 20′s thinks probably quite similar to them. Tradition and lineage and it’s meaning and why one would feel this is important, a disconnect from our past and our families have led us into a ‘who gives a shit about anything that’s not immediate’ attitude. This of course permeates everything and most importantly marriage and it’s meaning.
Some have challenged both me, and others to tell them what benefits marriage has for them now, and it’s difficult to tell them the answer because socially, there is no benefit anymore, it’s not part of our institution anymore outside of feeding the divorce and wedding money-making machines. Women don’t get anything real out of marriage these days either, under the guise of what marriage means nowadays - they get financial gains and protection from the state, but outside of gold diggers and complete cunts, they don’t get married for this reason, so to say that’s a motivation to get married. that if you take that away suddenly you have meaning in marriage for both sexes again, is simply not a complete answer. There has to be a greater meaning than just declaring your faithfulness to another person, as a modern culture with eons of history behind us for us to look at, we all know that isn’t very reliable even with out no fault divorce. It has to mean even more than that. It has to be about more than just you and your wife, and more than just you, your wife, and your children, it has to be a trans-generational thing, it has to be about family, a legacy that lasts over the future, instilled with your ideals, morals, and traditions that help pass these on. In our individualistic society, this is probably more important and more necessary in our coming times.
However for the 90% of people getting married out there, this isn’t why they get married, most women are in love with the engagement and wedding planning, and talking and showing off to all their friends and family about her ‘special’ day – she’s romanticized it beyond and Disney fantasy… when a girl get’s engaged she becomes consumed with all of these insignificant things. Men tend to get married because they become lazy or tired of dating, or they are pressured into getting married because although the meaning of marriage has left our society, the social pressure to get married hasn’t – or realistically they settle for a girl who says she’s attracted to them and they think they can’t do any better. I’m leaving out the successful alpha marriage types, because I’m talking about the larger percentile here. If you find yourself with a girl who’s more obsessed with having a wedding than she is in pleasing you and making your life better, than don’t marry the bitch, same goes with kids, if she’s more into the having a kid because of all the attention she’ll get, she’ll be a terrible mother and is a single mom waiting to happen.
There is no real conclusion or message of hope, nor of doom, however, successful marriages seem to have forgone the status quo, it becomes a team of us against the world, the antithesis of what is happening around them, a man and woman and children that are all in that they are the only true important thing in the world. Family and marriage becomes a very personal mission, rather than the inclusive one it used to be, it’s more exclusive – kicking out fakes and angered feminists and mangina’s out of your family’s life, excluding anyone who does not fill the morals and needs of your family. When it is a well defended, meaning the woman is in full alpha love buy in mode, where your influence and her dedication to you and her family becomes greater than the outside influence by harpies and wedding porn enthusiasts than you can have a meaningful and long-lasting marriage. This and only this, is the way that you can have marriage, at least one that has meaning, one that ignores the legal pitfalls and threats, one that gives you as a man all the benefits we once enjoyed. That’s why it’s important to game your wife, that’s why it’s important to know game enough to choose one that will be an actual wife and mother, one that wont be swayed by the ridiculous joke our culture has become, a girl who can with stand the schizophrenic world – rare that she might be, marriage can mean something, but like everything else in this modern world, it becomes what you can make of it.