I’m going to indirectly answer a readers email here in this post, I won’t publish his original email, mainly because it’s too long and I don’t feel like editing it down to a concise format to deal with the response. It’s an email on the subject of bridging the gap from being able to talk to girls, them sometimes showing interest, other times being offended by a little cockiness, to banging them. All of this from the seemingly advantageous stance of being good looking. I’ve dealt with the good looking game before, realmademen.com is primarily about getting girls being a good looking guy. So many men and women think that it’s all gravy being a good looking guy, that they don’t have any problems, but there is a major disadvantage in being a good to great looking guy, and that is so many girls will be on the defensive around you, they will mask they’re attraction more than they would with a less attractive guy with game, for fear of appearing too easy, or for showing her weak traits she thinks are unattractive to you because of her lack of attraction from all the nervous beta’s reacting to her beauty. She mistakenly assumes we as men would be turned off by a girl who’s showing interest in the thing we want, which is her being horny for you, and you getting to spread her legs and ravage her body. A girl in the presence of a good looking guy will act the opposite, in more cases than not in the west, than how she should be acting. A little coyness mixed with a lot of strong yet subtle indicators of interest, mixed with some slight suggestiveness. We all have the image of the girls in beta movies that get all nervous in the presence of a real good looking guy, however in the movies she gets nervous, clumsy, tries to show off her tits more, tries to show off her legs, and in the process makes a fool of herself. They do this, not because this is how they actually act, but because this is how the feel inside, and are horrified to allow a man to see them quake in their vagina tingle – quite simply every girl in the west, knows that showing her eagerness is a relinquishing of her one and only power over men, and she does not give this away easily, no matter how in awe she is with you.
Now, to be thorough, there are really two types of good looking men out there to women, and depending on what type you are, you will get two diverging reactions from women, and the majority of women will react to each type accordingly. I think it’s important, but never really talked about, well because men fall into the trap of assuming that a good looking man to women are the same as a good looking woman to a man. As a man, I have 4 levels of hotness: hot, sexy, cute, and not in a fucking million years. She can be tall and slender and be as hot as a petite sexpot – each brings it’s own pleasure, one I get to throw around and one is more of malleable sexecapade. But in either case, if they’re both hot, I’ll want to bang them both, one might make my dick slightly harder, but that may be a slight preference, or type – but both would be either good girlfriend/wife material, or equally sex only material. Girls have their types as well, but it is divided by sex only and relationship material, or long time sex, raising her value sexy. She has guys she thinks are hot that she will only have sex with, having him as a boyfriend for a while, but only because she’s in the phase of rotating the alpha cock carousel, and she’s sleeping with other dudes while going out with you. The other is the full on prince charming all encompassing you own her vagina tingle good looking man. The traits that most often fall into this: The beefcake muscle bound guy/or skinny artistic hipster type’s, and the athletic traditional hansome or model or actor type. The first being the sex and live her youth while she’s jumping on other dudes cocks that are just like you, and the latter she’s not even thinking of other guys in your presence or out of it. You have to know if your getting pussy because you’re filling a need or being exotic, or a part of a fad, or if you know that most of the girls in the room are thinking about how wet she’s getting just by looking at you. There’s a difference, one type is like an adrenaline junkie, the other is a fantasy junkie. Knowing where you fit is paramount, even for less good looking dudes, are you fitting a niche, or are you just a solid mother fucker?
If you’re of the niche good looks, all you need to do is keep doing the thing your doing, and be more arrogant and cocky in your demeanor, being more direct will help your lay rate immensely, stay consistent in your look and your behavior, if you’re a meat head, don’t try to be all sensitive and cry and stuff, every girl will get turned off, no, be the situation, and you’ll bang your balls off. If you’re a hipster just keep being sarcastic and ironic and the hipster chicks will suck your dick dry, just don’t show your reasonable side, it will spoil the whole illusion for her, and take her sport fuck notch counter and put it back in her slut purse. You want to run direct game on these groupies as much as you can get away with it. Girls around you will show overt interest so you don’t have to worry about what they’re thinking, because usually whatever you say doesn’t matter, yes hipsters even you. When you think you’re having a mind-blowing philosophical debate on whether film is better than digital and she totally gets it, she really doesn’t, she just wants to fuck you. So get on with it. And muscle chiselers, they really don’t care about your work out routine, your dog, or UFC, she just wants to fuck you. In essence she feels great with just fucking you as long as she likes.
Now if your the other kind of good looking, you got your work more cut out for you. Why? Because you are always, always, always, more than a fuck to her. You will be so high value that girls although willing to risk being a one night stand with you, really really fight it, even if she’s going along with it in hopes that her magical vagina will blind you to your own amazingness long enough for you to consider dating her. After you fuck her she will either realize that she’s got no chance and become business like in her emotional distance and never call you or text you again, or and most likely say in a very submissive fashion something about how cool you are, or how she’d like to see you again, very carefully as to not apply pressure on you for fear that anything she does might spoil her chance with you. After fucking you, she will feel dread, mixed with elation. She is not okay with just fucking you, for every time you do, the possibility of your rejection of her will be weighing on her mind like a thousand pound weight.
So back to bridging a girl when you’re a good looking guy. As stated above, the first type just needs to be pretty direct, suggesting going back to your place is perfectly acceptable, she’s already shown you interest and willingness to be around you, the quicker you move the better. For the second part, which is my answer to my reader’s email, it’s a bit trickier. The first thing you need to do is realize, and not let any girls reaction or comments towards you convince or sway you otherwise, that every girl you meet wants you, and wants you really bad. Assume that stance. And not in the niche way, but that she’s absolutely in love with you, and any girl you are talking to does not know how to react with you. In this case, you need to work on the ability to both comfort and escalate, and most importantly learn to lead the interaction completely. Knowing this allows you to relax your game, you don’t need to worry about her reactions, and you only need to worry about what you are doing. At the same time remember that everything you do cuts through her like a samurai sword and she butter – if you escalate too much, too fast, too direct, she’s gonna get freaked, she’s gonna get weird, she’s gonna wonder whats wrong with you, since you can have every women in the room. Same goes with being too nice, or especially too needy. What’s wrong with this guy? See good looking guys in this type actually have less leeway in any sort of chasing a girl, he actually can’t chase her, or he lowers himself to an ego boost for the attention whore. If you are a good looking guy you want to remain on and even balance of cocky funny, aloofness, and interesting. You want to assume it’s all about you with out being obvious about it, you want to just do things as you seem to want. Every girl you meet is assuming you’re a golden boy and gets whatever you want, so you need to be congruent with this, without being too arrogant about it. Being too arrogant about it will scare her off and think you’re unattainable. Your attainability should be throwing out a compliment or two, or, if a girl is staying in your vicinity, or trying to be around you, talking to you, she wants you – you test her eagerness to be with you by getting her to go along with what you are doing, then you begin to escalate with touching and kissing. For example a location change, or a stroll will show if she’s interested. If she goes along with whatever you want, then you can start to escalate, slowly at first, then you can get heavier once you’ve began to make out, once making out with her, you should have no problem with taking her home. In fact, you know you’re one of these good looking types when you know a girl wants you, but resists in a full make out, because once she does, she’ll gush between her legs, and she knows you’ll be able to do anything to her.