A reader writes to me:
Based on the facts, do u think she still got feelings for me and tried to add me again and introduce me to her company to have me near now that she knows im dating other girls? (BTW she’s hotter than ever i got to admit it)
This is one time that the actual facts, the back story of what the man is talking about, is completely irrelevant, I have decided to not use them, both to protect the reader, but also, and mainly, because this is a very big difference between being a man in control, or falling into the trap of wondering if girls have feelings for you, or trying to figure out what she’s thinking fallacy.
If there is one trap, one trigger, that sneaks normal men, even alpha men in a slip up, any man, get’s into its this. He get’s snagged emotionally or passionately on one woman. He can’t stop thinking about her, he can’t stop wanting her, even after a break up he cant stop wondering if she’s thinking she made a mistake, still wants him, he rationalizes everything she says and does as something that might give him hope, that might give him a clue that she wants him. This desire to want someone, overwhelms men to get her to want him back. This single thing is the biggest game killer – this thinking, worrying, fretting, singular thinking, obsession, keeps men from actualizing the goal they want. It is one of the saddest lessons in life, watching a man so intensely focused on one woman – as an observer you can see the train wreck ahead of them, and you know that nothing you actually say to them can change it. I’ve been through it, and I’m sure that most other men at some point have as well. Even more peculiar than the event itself is how some guys fall in love with this feeling, this fantasy play in his head – attaching feelings to girls that don’t love them back, hoping and rationalizing like women do on why she acts like she does, why doesn’t she just admit her feelings for me – guys can and do get addicted to this feeling. This is actually the core reason I started this site. Every single part of this scenario has to stop for guys.
For the men who’ve fallen in love with being infatuated, you are behaving like a woman.
Now the reader does not have the infatuation play going on, he’s banging other chicks, but this one came back after his expulsion of her – and now he’s wondering, and as he says to me, it’s only for revenge or upper hand – however, even if you’re not infatuated with a girl, this wonder of her having feelings reveals the fact that you still are infatuated or attached to the feelings that this girl gives you. He has not let go. Every man who’s been into women have had that girl that just drives him insane, sends his T levels through the roof, acts in every way that takes you off your game and makes you literally crazy about her – you hate her for it, and you want to dominate her, but you can’t because your emotions are completely out of control for her. It doesn’t have to be love, it can be unbridled passion. Being out of control of your passions and emotions only stand to get you in trouble, and not get what you want.
There is one truth about women, when it comes to their feelings for a man, when she loves a man, and this crosses all racial types, cultural issues, and even feminists – if a girl is in love with you, she will make it obvious. If you have any doubts or questions about her feelings for you, then she is not in love with you. Once you actually accept this, and witness this, then you see the ultimate humility in the act of wondering if a girl has feelings for you or not. Girls like to be aloof about these things, but nothing excites them more than that torrent of emotion that floods her body when she is totally into a guy. When a girl gives you incongruent, or inconsistent messages or signals, she’s not made up her mind, or she is doing so for motives that aren’t about her feelings she has for you, but for the feelings she wants to have. Girls will play with your emotions to feel better about herself. Girls do this so she can feel confident when the alpha of her dreams comes by and knocks her off her feet – girls who do this are actually too afraid to fall in love – because she knows she’ll be completely powerless – so she displays and wields her power over the lapping dogs at her feet, while she still has it.
The lies we were told about women, you know, that they’re a mystery, is only a lie perpetrated by beta men who have no idea how women work. Reading women is the easiest thing in the world – because they’re actually quite horrible at concealing how they feel about something. If she seems good at it, it’s usually because she doesn’t feel anything at all about it.