One of the most common things i read in game blogs, or relationship advice that men ask is when they know they’ve fucked up in an interaction. It’s usually a misplaced, mis-timed, or flat out beta to the max text, action, or comment – with either no response, indifferent responses, or flat out rejection or turn around. The question is always the same, “What do i do next?” – the usual answer, nothing, write her off and go after other women. But the pedastalization continues – or in some cases the competition gene kicks in and refuses to let us lose. The latter is my Achilles heel, i don’t like to lose, i also don’t beleive in the no win scenario.
Even with said belief above, there is always a time when one must concede a loss – after too much appeasement, too much neediness, too much creepiness in repeated blurts, cries, or declarations of affection – there is simply a point of no return. One of the things about game is learning what can trigger negative responses from you, and realizing you did this immediately after. If you are a man, you at some point fired off a text that you didn’t think through or thought it was fun, cute or sensitive – only to realize as soon as you sent it, waited forever for a reply that never comes, that you made a mistake. This moment is much like the moment when you are about to defuse the bomb and you’re not sure if its the blue wire or the green wire, and are about to trust your instincts. You know if you choose the wrong wire you’re gonna blow up, and if you get the right wire, you are back to square one.
The key to recovering from mistakes is one, realize you made a mistake. Two, do not attempt a recovery. Three, under no circumstances can you keep prodding on with recovery texts, comments, displays of love. One of the reasons the advice givers say move on, is because most of the time once a girls legs are shut they are shut for good. However, if you have built enough attraction with a girl you can recover from a mistake if you can successfully make her forget about said comment or action.
Depending on the seriousness of your mishap you can take one of two counter measures when recovering from a mistake. If you know you made her feel awkward, or you seemed needy, pressured her in anyway towards something she was not willing to go to – heavy doses of aloofness are required. Waiting a full day to re-initiate contact again at the very least – and in said contact, re-establish your previous frame with the girl. If she takes the bait plow forward like you were two steps behind where you thought you were before the comment. If your mistake was minor, and you feel that an immediate response is needed to save face, you can fire off a text, or blurt out a comment – but it has to be about a different subject completely, preferably something random and funny. Pointing out some observation you just made, will show her you’re just texting/saying stuff randomly without thinking can give you some leeway in her hamster brain. It will allow her safely to give you a mulligan, as long as you know you cannot fuck up again, at least for a while.
This advice will work if there is sufficient attraction already involved, of course the more alpha you already are and/or the more attraction she has for you, will allow you to say anything – it is a dangerous trap to assume that you are already super attractive in her eyes. In fact never think that she’s completely yours, because, it’s nature, she can’t help what she’s attracted to. Never fall under the spell too much that you can say whatever you want, it is a dangerous game only the top masters can maneuver in.
But, we are human and we all make mistakes. Failure teaches us a lot, and to not err would not be human. Don’t fret about mistakes, just make sure you are able to recover from them with dignity.
March on soldiers